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New Beginngings

03 Tuesday Jan 2017

Posted by Kelly Miller in Authentic Living

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2016, 2017, America, blogger, blogs, empathy, family, goodbye 2016, happy new year, life, lipsync, Mariah Carey, negativity, NYE, ringing in the new year, tragedies, twitter

Here we are, it’s 2017. I rang in my New Year over my mother-in-laws guest toilet due to the case of a stomach bug. It was so not fun. The good news is, as my sister in law put it, we can only go up from here. As I laid my head down in hopes of sleeping off the nausea I smiled as I read the many tweets and the well wishes of the upcoming new year. However, as I woke to the morning feed of Facebook posts and tweets to how everyone’s NYE had gone, I was saddened at what I read. Sarcastic memes and tweets of Mariah Carey having crashed and burned the night before. Since I had not seen the event for myself, I of course had to follow the links to see what had gone down in the wee hours of the morning.

I watched a painful 2 minute video showing Mariah Carey struggling to hear her track while trying to keep up with her dancers. You could clearly tell she was trying to come in when she could, but just could not hear what was happening. It was personally breaking my heart. I was waiting for an awful note like last year’s Idna Menzela’s performance of “Let It Go”. So painful. Or a moment where maybe Mariah sang a completely different song to what was being played, but lo and behold it was nothing but sheer uncomfortable agony of someone clearly struggling to hear. Yet, what was America’s reaction? “Your career is over Mariah.”

First of all, let’s not be dramatic. Mariah honestly held her own and behaved like a professional and tried to make the best of a crappy situation. Second, how will we ever rise out of 2016 if our knee jerk reaction is to shame someone for experiencing a very publicly embarrassing moment? This may seem like a trivial thing to write about but it seems to show the core of who we have come to be. Instead maybe we could have tweeted and posted, “Oh wow, poor Mariah. I am so sorry you couldn’t hear your track” “Mariah, way to recover and chat your way through such an embarrassing mishap” or even better yet, blame the sound engineer who played the wrong track in the first place! (sorry to my husband and fellow sound people)

But no, we point and laugh and make fun of someone’s misery and puff up our chests as if we can do better. It bleeds into how we respond to the tragedies of this country when black men are shot by cops then in turn cops murdered in broad daylight. Even more tragically when an innocent toddler is eaten by an alligator many showed no empathy or heartfelt sorrow for the family suffering. Just judgement, hatred or disgust.

As we move into 2017; can each of us make a vow to daily strive to respond to life and media, both locally and globally, with compassion, empathy, sorrow and even joy if necessary?  May I be so bold as to suggest that we welcome this new president and lift him, our local and global leaders alike, in prayer and have empathy for the hard decisions they must make everyday? If we don’t like them or their decisions, may we take to the productive methods of change instead of tweeting our frustrations to each other?

I write this from a platform of a mom, a working woman in America and someone who has many times been up on the stage bearing my soul to my own little world. I hope you will not make fun or jeer at what you disagree with but take heart in the notion that we need to begin anew.

Happy New Year 2017!

In My Line: May I see your ID?

12 Thursday Nov 2015

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America, authentic living, authenticity, family, military, navy, officer, positivity, sprouts, Veterans, Veterans day

It’s been over six weeks since I quit working as a cashier at Sprouts Farmers Market. I had some amazing experiences with seeing humanity at its best while I worked there. I shared two other stories in my previous posts and this is the third and final blog on my short but fantastic time working at Sprouts.

I was getting much better and faster at my job as a cashier. It was getting easier to converse with the customers and scan their items quickly. On this particular day, my supervisor asked all of us cashiers to card every single patron who purchased alcohol that day. We were told it did not matter if they looked 50, we still had to card them. I enjoy carding people. The fun part of asking, “May I see your ID?” is they tend to be flattered that there is a question they may be 21. I had one gentleman who was celebrating his 60th birthday that day and I was able to enthusiastically wish him a happy birthday. He loved it. Another patron was a lady who seemed to have spent a lot of money looking younger than she was but was quite annoyed that she had to get her ID out. It was quite funny and I thought a bit ironic.

The night was beginning to wind down and a young man came through my line who was clearly less than 25 purchasing a six pack of beer. I asked for his ID and upon seeing it noticed I it was not a California ID. He began to explain to me that he was a military brat from Michigan but here in San Diego on duty in the Navy.  The military was something he had known his entire life. He had recently come back from a ship deployment in Japan. He was so full of energy, excitement and pride for his job. There was an older gentleman in line behind him listening to our conversation as we talked. This man tapped the young guy on his shoulder and said, “Son, if you’re in the military there is someone here you’ve got to meet!” By this time I was done ringing up the young private’s groceries. Everyone in line seemed intrigued as to who this young man should meet. The older gentleman called out to an athletic looking man in his mid-fifties. He said, “Son, this is Michael, an officer in the Navy.” The officer smiled and reached across his friend to the young man. Their hands clasped right in front of me and I felt the energy between them. The officer leaned in and said with great intensity and reverence I did not expect, “Son, thank you for your service. What you do is hard and not many know what we go through. I know and I thank you.” The young man from Michigan kept eye contact the entire time with his superior and took the compliment graciously. He responded with, “Thank you sir. I appreciate that immensely.” As they shook hands one more time I realized I had tears in my eyes. The young man gathered his belongings, paused to smile at me and then thanked the two men he had just met for the introduction. Everyone in my line seemed to feel the incredible respect and magnitude of the moment. The line began to go back to the usual chatter as I rang up the remaining customers. I hoped everyone felt the same as me, that we had just been given a small gift.

I write this today, on Veterans Day. My Grandpa, whom we affectionately called “Pa” was part of the last horse infantry in World War II. My father-in-law served the Navy for 25 years and retired as a Petty Chief Officer and my own father was in the Air Force at the end of Vietnam. I have always been grateful for our men and women in service, but to see such an exchange of respect and gratitude was an incredible reminder of the sacrifice they endure. I may never truly get it, but I am thankful for these men and women and all they do for the American people. Happy Veterans Day to those serving and thank you for the sacrifice of those who served before them.

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